On a good day, parenting will test the integrity of your character. On a bad day, parenting will test your will to live. Parenting children with trauma histories will cause you to test the integrity of everything and everyone you thought you knew, for the rest of your life.
~J. Skrobisz

Saturday, March 27, 2010

breaking news from IFI

Ms M just left.

Insurance has bumped down our services. Now we'll get 15 hours over the next 3 months.

That equates to 5 hours a MONTH.

HOW does this make sense?!?!?!


Corey said...


That is just... awesome.

In backwards world.

Jane said...

This is just unbelievable.

I will be praying for all of you.

FosterAbba said...

I wonder if it's time to start looking down the road of the lesser of two evils. Which option will get you into less trouble: surrendering Sissy to foster care, or allowing her to hurt your other child, thus proving her need not to live with you?

I know that neither solution gives you the outcome you would like. I'm sorry you are going through this, because it seems that you should be helped to take care of your troubled children, rather than punished.

Is it possible in your state to dissolve an adoption?

Jennifer said...

Hi, Jennie,

Long-time reader, but first-time commenter.

Floored by your situation. I have no words of wisdom, but am simply sending lots of healing energy your way for you and for all of your family.

Best and peace.

Mama Drama Times Two said...

Holy Smokes. I can't believe it. It makes no sense. None.

Crayon said...

My jaw is on the floor. I'm so sorry.

marythemom said...

I'm way behind on reading, but this sounds like the situation we were in with our (at the time) violent and aggressive son. The caseworker was focused on him, so all my time and energy was supposed to be focused on him instead of my 3 other children (including his traumatized biosis). The caseworker was beyond useless when it came to assisting us - all she told us was "don't let him escalate" and don't restrain him no matter what. When he got so violent that we had to restrain him and he got a tiny bruise, they pulled both him AND his sister from our home pending a CPS investigation. Then they came out and inspected us weekly after the kids were returned (with no help from the caseworker!) to make sure we weren't restraining him -no advice on what to actually do when we needed to say no (which escalated him). I was so glad to get them out of my home that I figured it was better than the "support" they were supposed to be giving us.

Mary in TX