A few posts back, I mentioned a premonition I had in December about January and February, that they would be dark, dark days, that things and people would go underground, that life would be rough and it would seem as though all would be lost and that by March, it would begin to turn around again. I didn't know at the time that March 1st would be a new moon. I also didn't know that I would be in a different state, attempting to make a plan for my family.
Kisikelia, who has been following my blogs for many years made, the astute observation that I have sounded depressed. Yes and no. I never lost sight of hope and I never stopped dreaming. I didn't want to die and I have always seen a light, however distant it seemed. That said, I have definitely walked through a a pit of despair I have felt lost, empty, lonely and overwhelmed. Most poignantly, I have grieved bitterly the revelation of what I never had in my relationship with my ex spouse. I realized, completely, how little he gave me and how significantly troubled that relationship was because I had a comparison to hold that relationship to.
I have learned that I am awesome. I am an amazing woman that is ready for relationship and that I have so much to offer. I have learned what works for me and what doesn't. I have learned that some rules can be broken and that there is so much of life I have not lived yet. I have learned that there is love and hope and healing all around me. I have learned that paradigms can change but only to a degree because there are governing morals and values we individually ascribe to. I have learned what it feels like to be accepted as I am, and to be appreciated. I have learned that I help make a good team. I have learned that I am strong and encouraging, positive, funny and desirable. I have had so much fun and happiness. And all of that? I never had with my ex.
So it hasn't been drepression, it has been grief. Hard, bitter grief and despair that I have spent so much of my life not living but believing I have lived. I have been in a chrysalis for a long, long time but a friend, whom I will always cherish , showed me the way out, how to beat my wings and to take flight.
I leave on Friday to travel to my home state, Pennsylvania, to knock on doors and see what I see. I am terrified but I will make this great escape, I will fly on my new wings, I will embrace this new moon and the words of my premonition. I will shake off the clinging dust of my grief and break the rules that should be broken.
There is a new moon on Saturday. I will breathe deeply and exhale slowly as I make a plan to begin my life anew.
For my wondertwin: If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants. ~Sir Issac Newton
 for all of my other incredible, amazing friends that have watched me grieve, hugged me, cried with me and encouraged me to get up and try again: I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better. ~Plutarch