So... I'm going to stir up the pot a little and ask a provocative question.
Emotionally I'm at a place where I find myself saying HOW can these children be helped? CAN they be helped? At what point is it medically unethical for the system to continue to place children like this in home environments at the welfare and safety of everyone else in a home?
But there don't seem to be answers. It seems to be hit and miss and I think it also comes down to which families have the stuffing to put up with these behaviors from their children.
I, for one, am not one of those tolerant moms. I've learned that truth the past few weeks and that makes me sad too. So many of the moms I'm following on blogspot have put up with behaviors like this from one or more children for much longer than 10 years and either you are superhuman or you have been unwilling to make the hard choices.
I'm not sure which it is and it seems rude and improper to ask these blunt questions but I'm going to.
Are you superhuman...
or unwilling to make the hard choice to relinquish children to placements when they need it? When the safety and welfare of the rest of your healthy family, yourself and your marriage demand it?
I'm not accusing, just asking. Because I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that either I'm a crappy woman that can't handle my kid, the whole lot of you are as insane as your kids, you have truths and successes you're withholding like Sissy holds her poo or your families are suffering and you don't recognize it.
For the record, I don't think I'm a sorry excuse of a woman that simply isn't willing to handle her kid. And honestly? I don't think personal homes were intended to be set up as institutions.
And yeah, I'm angry and no it's not directed at any of my readers but good God Almighty, it's a bitter pill to swallow when you're faced with the glaringly obvious truth that you are insufficient to help your child no matter what you do, that to continue to try is at the detriment of every other family member and your own well-being. And that's not just yesterday's panic attack talking. That's being honest because seriously, someone has to state the truth and it sure as heck isn't going to be Sissy.
I'll leave anonymous posting on as long as it doesn't become a mad lynching. I'm not in the mood to be strung up in martyrdom today.