i typed up an entire post and deleted it.
because what's the point? I can blog all I like about what happens in my life but it doesn't change anything, does it? People are still going to be ignoramuses. There are always going to be idiots that i'll have to explain my challenged children too that will still tell me that I'm wrong. Even when staring at the evidence.
And really? I want to deal with adult strangers that won't hear what I have to say when I have to deal with a child that is equally incorigible?
And I have to do this at church? the one day, nay the one HOUR a week I'm trying to feel BETTER about my circumstances?
I'm not a parent of challenged children so I can educate the world. I'm just trying to get through today without a crisis. As I do EVERY.SINGLE.DAY.WITHOUT.FAIL.
I most certainly do NOT want to explain to some guy I've never met before (we go to a huge church) that my children are impaired so he can tell me otherwise. Really? REALLY!?!
For crying out loud, I can't even go to church for one hour without having to always deal with the fact that people do not understand challenged children and the difficulties their parents endure trying to raise them. And the last thing I want to do is justify myself or my children to a stranger.
Here's what I WILL say (because my hubby says I say lots of amazing things and he needed me to write this one down): if you're going to be a sunday school teacher then you have to accept that you know NOTHING about what goes on in a child's life or in the lives of their parents. You have to take an objective stance when dealing with conflict, not a combative or confrontational one. You have to assume that every child will need something a little different in order to receive the bible message you are attempting to teach and you have to take a proactive approach when you hit road blocks with that child or their parent instead of a reactive one.
but there I go again, educating.
And expecting that people DESIRE to be educated.
point in fact, they do not.
From here forward, I absolutely, positively will NOT attend church without my spouse. I am attacked when I do. People don't pester us about our kids when he's there. He's 6 foot 7 inches. You don't argue with a man that tall. And you certainly don't mess with his kids or his wife.
It also begs the questions: do we just not go at all? do we find another church? Do we change when we attend? Do we bother to contact pastoral staff to help us find a solution?
i say, screw it. It's too much effort and no one cares anyway. unless their lives are intimately involved with impaired kids, they don't want the education about it. and that goes for church folks.
thanks to Marty for saying all of this in a much kinder way.