WG lost her crap today. She just couldn't hold it in. It's been festering and simmering for weeks. Can you blame a six year old for being this angry when her ENTIRE LIFE has been spent dealing with two challenged older siblings? When I tell her don't do what they do, WG and BTW, respond better than them too. She's only six, I'm asking a lot of her to behave like an adult in the face of such adversity when let's be honest, there are ADULTS that don't keep their crap together. Can I get an 'amen'?!?
She screamed, she kicked, she hit Sissy, she hollered in The Dad's face, she fussed, she tantrumed she got sent to her room to eat supper alone. I went in to bring her a table for her meal and she clung to my legs, "MOMMY! Please don't leave me alone!" and I said, "I'm sorry WG, but you have to face the consequence for your actions."
The Dad brought her the supper and she hollered at us all, "But Sissy doesn't care! She tells us so ALL THE TIME! She tells us how she hates us, won't be nice to us, ALL THE TIME! She's MEAN!"
And WG is right. All of what she said is true. Except WG isn't challenged and regardless of the crap Sissy doles out daily, each of us is responsible for our actions, WG included. She can't just go around losing her crap, hitting, screaming, kicking, being disrespectful and defiant. We don't let Sissy do it, she has consequences too (although 100% of the time Sissy gets quadruple consequences because she goes apesh!t when you give her even ONE consequence).
WG pulled it together and was silent almost immediately. I tried very hard not to cry and run to her room and rescue her. When she was finally settled down, The Dad brought her food back to the table, WG apologized to Sissy for hitting and the rest of the evening has been without issue.
It's not fair. I'm expecting my six year old to behave better than her older sister. No. not true. I expect the same from Sissy, she just refuses to comply. It is heartbreaking, though, to hear the truth screamed at us from the mouth of a spent six year old. Her words still resonate in my bones, two hours later, yet I have no answer to give WG because I've screamed the same at the powers that be and still, Sissy is here, wreaking havoc on the lives of FIVE people.