Every time I have to leave the home without Sissy, she gives The Dad serious crap. I always walk in the door to another crisis or crisis averted. Her biggest issues when I leave are lying or flat out defiance. Many times we end up having to call the crisis team to deescalate. It gets old. It gets weary. I hate that I can't go anywhere for any length of time without knowing that I'll return to Sissy's rage ... again. I don't ever feel guilty for going anywhere, I just get exhausted of it all. It would be nice to walk out the door and return again without chaos meeting me in the face the very second I open the front door.
OK RAD moms, dissect. Why is Sissy doing this? Is it payback for me because I left? Is she trying to drive a wedge between The Dad and I? Is it anxious attachment: is she feeling nervous BECAUSE I'm gone?
What recommendations do you have to prevent these episodes? Her IFI team's initial thought was that we plan exactly what Sissy will do in my absence so that she doesn't have a chance to have free time to wobble in her mood, triangulate, manipulate or whatever other crap she wants to try.
It's been two full weeks of Sissy's hell so I'm done, cooked, wasted. I've got nothing right now. Respite tonight, thank GOD. We're celebrating 14 years of marriage and we have NO idea what we want to do beyond escaping this hell for three hours but now I'm thinking my respite is going to bite me on the a$$ if the IFI team doesn't deescalate Sissy when I return. No point in having a respite if Sissy's going to undo it all 10 minutes after I get home.
Talk to me.