We keep our celebrations pretty low key on purpose. Too much action then we get too much aftermath. Those of you with kids who have special needs know what I'm talking about. We learned the hard way. It can take days to recover from a day of too much excitement. I'm all for prevention.
I couldn't say it better so I'm just going to let her say it for me.
We shoot off fireworks in the street of our neighborhood and then invite our other special needs family friends over to join us. We've done this for many years. It's what works for our kids. It means no toilet issues (because gosh, my kids have toilet issues), it means no crowds (because my kids can't do crowds), it means AC and TV is available just by going inside, it means access to food on the kitchen table, it means unlimited beverages with ice, it means no 45 traffic backlogs. It means items of comfort like stuffed toys, bubbles, MP3 players and pillows and blankies. It means no paybacks for the next two days.
All of that translates into: an enjoyable holiday for Mom and Dad that doesn't cost us more than we bargained for.
This is how my family has to celebrate because this is how my family is. Sometimes I miss seeing the big displays. Sometimes I miss being able to do more with more people. I don't miss those things for long, I've learned that this is just as much fun in its own unique way. I won't apologize for it anymore.