tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post8281546927089984979..comments2023-10-01T06:32:11.982-07:00Comments on PEACE in PUZZLES: a 911 call, an ambulance and 9 hours in the ERIntegrity Singerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-10131551804624526132010-09-14T14:47:00.085-07:002010-09-14T14:47:00.085-07:00(((((((((((((((((((Integrity Singer)))))))))))))))...(((((((((((((((((((Integrity Singer))))))))))))))))<br /><br />Why does it take so freakin' long to get a child checked in to a psych hospital?! Every time we go it takes 6-8 hours. It's soooo wrong!<br /><br />We called the hospital Club Med., and my daughter absolutely loved it... the first time. The second time was a different mix of kids and she was apparently scared of a couple of them.<br /><br />My kids are "Charming" RAD so we have a tough time keeping them in treatment centers because they present so well (plus they're away from us, the evil parents, so what's not to like?!).<br /><br />I think you are absolutely right that she wanted to go to the hospital, so you go right ahead and enjoy any break you get (although between meetings/therapy, visiting hours, phone calls and bringing stuff to the child... sometimes it seemed like we spent MORE time rather than less.<br /><br />I hope that you are able to break through Sissy's image of herself and plans for her life, but if not, please remember that you didn't do this to her! It's like CPR. If it works and you are able to save the person then Great!, but if it doesn't work and the person dies, or lives, but has serious injuries from the CPR like broken ribs... it is not your fault! CPR is done only on someone who is DEAD! <br /><br />You did not do this to Sissy, all you can do is try to help, but if that fails it is not your fault either. No matter what, I believe she is better off with you than she was.<br /><br />Hugs and prayers,<br />Mary in TXmarythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-62905534297110309472010-09-14T14:04:05.273-07:002010-09-14T14:04:05.273-07:00They use and use and then do it some more. I have...They use and use and then do it some more. I have no answers, but I am sure going to be praying for peace for all of you, you deserve it. It sure is hard not to let them get to you.Cyndihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03707402484656540757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-111410642645999162010-09-14T12:24:51.850-07:002010-09-14T12:24:51.850-07:00oh hang in there Mama, I hope that today brings so...oh hang in there Mama, I hope that today brings some calm and some answers about what might come nextstellarparenting.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975942737904876508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-51954309283789374712010-09-14T09:31:11.492-07:002010-09-14T09:31:11.492-07:00Would it be considered medically ethical for you t...Would it be considered medically ethical for you to put Sissy on birth control as soon as she starts menstruating?kisekileiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967070182847617840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-69680276474058868612010-09-14T08:41:54.143-07:002010-09-14T08:41:54.143-07:00I'm so sorry! :-( I wish you could take a brea...I'm so sorry! :-( I wish you could take a break from it all. Hugs and prayers. <3Bee's Zen Gardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11938270931565816640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-72325735664728407252010-09-14T07:11:56.579-07:002010-09-14T07:11:56.579-07:00So sorry for her . . . and all of you . . . but re...So sorry for her . . . and all of you . . . but relieved that at least you get a short respite. Praying you will figure out what to do long-term. . . and her description of herself at 18 is so sad and I agree with you. . . totally worrisome . . . Praying that the Love of God will grasp hold of her heart, and change it, along with some kind of a break-through with the medical needs.Happymom4 aka Hope Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13853646859979784516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-52719968111034653752010-09-14T06:21:00.646-07:002010-09-14T06:21:00.646-07:00((((hugs)))) My heart is breaking for you. My spir...((((hugs)))) My heart is breaking for you. My spirit is praying for you. My mind is angered for you.Brenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06932787965969894963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-17082933587814704302010-09-14T05:46:13.378-07:002010-09-14T05:46:13.378-07:00Oh! I'm so relieved for you and her. She is s...Oh! I'm so relieved for you and her. She is safe now and where she needs to be. Everything she was saying sounds exactly like a very manic child (and I know she has RAD as well only making it all the more complicated but minus the RAD, completely attached manic kids sound and act just like she is). As for you, I know it's so hard to do but I would try not feel one bit of guilt. You need to detach some and take care of yourself. You have 2 other kids that need you and love you and Sissy is where she needs to be. Take care of yourself. My son was very happy too when he went into the phosp because he was high as a kite manic and knew he was out of control and was relieved to be in a safe environment where he would not be disappointing me constantly or constantly in trouble. It's a relief to them as well. Also, if you are not in a CABF online support group, I would join one. It's free.<br />Hugs,<br />MegMeghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02896189499897119912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-51190366118947474312010-09-14T05:26:35.178-07:002010-09-14T05:26:35.178-07:00Sorry your day sucked! At least you will be able t...Sorry your day sucked! At least you will be able to hear yourself think in the quiet. {{{Hugs}}}GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-29758423128450708522010-09-14T03:49:24.891-07:002010-09-14T03:49:24.891-07:00My son loves the hospital. He's only been ther...My son loves the hospital. He's only been there once (supposed to have been 3-5 days, ended up being 17 and I'm sure he manipulated his way into staying longer cause he loved it so much), but it left an impression. For a long time after he came home, he begged to go back. See, there are no chores at the hospital, he can stay up late watching tv shows we won't let him watch or movies that are wildly inappropriate for him. He "wins" entire bags of candy playing bingo and can eat the entire thing in 10 min. if he chooses (and YES he chooses to). Sure there's pesky visits from the dr. that he completely blows off and they require showering to earn tokens (but nobody actually supervises showers so he just gets wet and gets out). The best part though, if that there is no connection to anyone - and that's the way he likes it. He gets stuff with very little or no effort from strangers that are his new best friends. He can act up like crazy all day and then new people come in for a shift change and he can choose how he'll behave for the next group of strangers. <br /><br />My 17 yo daughter is going to be a whore too. It sounds so callous to write this, but ultimately, it's all there. She envisions herself wearing skin-tight clothes, the highest heels she can find and being a chef. She'll have 5 kids and support them by working as a chef. She will NEVER restrain one of her children if they're trying to hurt another - this was screamed in my face yesterday morning as I restrained her (go figure) and she will never be the witchy mother I am. In fact, I am NOT her mother anymore and she's screaming child abuse because she got her neck scratched in the restraint. I got a bruise on my arm, fingernail prints on my hand and have a chunk of skin missing where her tooth sunk in to my hand, but hey, my fault - right? I asked her yesterday whether she considers herself a child or an adult (she'll be 18 in April), because she can't have it both ways. No answer.<br /><br />Here's hoping you get a few days "rest", at least from the screaming :) Sometimes I wonder who we will be when they're grown and gone. Will be have uncontrollable twitching? Will we duck when we hear loud noises? Break into tears when we see "normal" mothers & daughters lunching or shopping together? Heck, I do all that now, I just wonder how long it will last or if I'll ever feel normal again.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.com