tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post6941839915451277400..comments2023-10-01T06:32:11.982-07:00Comments on PEACE in PUZZLES: The ignorant 90%Integrity Singerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-38518318529867634592010-10-24T05:46:43.966-07:002010-10-24T05:46:43.966-07:00I hear you. Re-entry has not be too tough here but...I hear you. Re-entry has not be too tough here but I really sort of felt the same way all weekend except for when i was Laurie, she gets it. Hang in there, may the coming week be a calm one.stellarparenting.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975942737904876508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-38228571550209547802010-10-20T13:54:34.994-07:002010-10-20T13:54:34.994-07:00Thank you for being real; how else can we see the ...Thank you for being real; how else can we see the light of God in your life except that you be willing to show us the darkness?<br /><br />(((((((HUGS)))))))Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06231818670835653986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-21093926209247340702010-10-20T10:18:36.272-07:002010-10-20T10:18:36.272-07:00@ lisa - i'm so sorry you have had such a time...@ lisa - i'm so sorry you have had such a time of it! It pays to be poor in the sense that getting Sissy (and very soon, AB) declared medically disabled means we qualify for social security income. But that said, reading the article in our local paper this week, even WITH the SSI, our annual income is marginally better than a local police officer's salary which is less than half of the average family annual income for our community.<br /><br />in other words, to qualify for SSI, you have to live at or below 125% of the poverty level.<br /><br />BUT, the trade off is free respite, therapies, RTC and doctors for my disabled kids. sure, I live poorly, my shoes are worn, my clothes are from goodwill, and WG goes to dance lessons on a scholarship (because the owner felt sorry for her) but it's less hassle ... mostly. :)<br /><br />xxoo<br /><br />come to Orlando if you canIntegrity Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-33431245427023413372010-10-20T07:58:01.094-07:002010-10-20T07:58:01.094-07:00I am so...glad you were able to go on the quilt re...I am so...glad you were able to go on the quilt retreat - but I get ya about feeling out of place anyway. I can talk for HOURS/DAYS even about my kids issues and our struggles (if only there was someone to hear me, sigh) to find good mental health "help", but I feel completely ignorant about every other subject in the world at this moment. The search for help is all-consuming, almost smothering. My son's pdoc put him on a very old, powerful anti-psychotic the other day - as needed - for his long rage fests. It didn't even phase him. The pdoc assured me that if he took this pill, he'd be out for 4-6 hours (sleeping soundly) - didn't even make him drowsy. So, we go in today and he talks to him about his choices - to do nothing, contribute nothing to the family or the world in general, to keep demanding that others serve him. Big deal, it's the same speech over and over. My son cares about absolutely no one and nothing and will flatly tell you that he's not interested in changing. So, what do we do with him? He's not my only child with issues, he steals all of my time. We are looking into respite (that we still cannot afford) once again and I am DETERMINED to go thru with it. I am sick of people trying to diminish his issues and them telling us how sweet he is. He's not sweet, he can act sweet when he wants something and he thinks he'll get it. He can also be violent and aggressive and scream for hours if he doesn't think he'll get what he thinks he wants (and that's always changing from moment to moment) - but everyone ignores that aspect of who he is.<br /><br />I completely get how you feel about money. I have been trying to dig our family out of debt for the past two years - debt that was incurred because we have crappy insurance and we were SURE we needed to try therapies and learning programs that weren't covered for several children who couldn't be bothered to put in any effort. Talk about eye-opening! We originally had about $70,000 in debt from these therapies/medical procedures, etc. We could have put an addition on our house (a quiet room for one), bought new vehicles, taken a vacation or paid for regular respite with that money. I am just sick of all the sacrifices we're making right now. I know we wouldn't be doing it if we didn't love our kids so much, but whenever my son complains about something not being fair, I just want to run away - or scream at him (I do neither, don't turn me into cps).Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-27929564804193486352010-10-20T05:23:45.776-07:002010-10-20T05:23:45.776-07:00We have seen 11 "professional" therapist...We have seen 11 "professional" therapists and they passed us around to each other like an ugly step-child. I gave up....NO professionals for us.<br />Quilt-retreat...what nicer words are there? We ALL have had a sticky kitchen table for a sewing room at one point or another. I have a HUGE sewing room in my basement all finished and beautifully done up, yet I find myself doing much of my quilting at the kitchen table anyway! PLUS hand quilters do not need all the fancy stuff....no big deal machines or expensive gadgets here either. A 2 dollar thimble, a pack of needles and a spool of thread and I am good!Brenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06932787965969894963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-57483299455683284142010-10-19T19:55:40.247-07:002010-10-19T19:55:40.247-07:00I just recently found your blog, and it's refr...I just recently found your blog, and it's refreshing to see someone else's honesty about their situation! I have two kiddos who are adopted, one of whom with significant developmental days....and YEAH, it seems no one seems to GET it! (Even the "professionals") I also miss the days of "wandering the globe in ignorant bliss." Thanks for your candid-ness. It helps me feel less alone in our struggles! <br /><br />Chris<br />www.acrazykindoffaith.blogspot.comChris P-Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12076184754958801358noreply@blogger.com