tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post5867921431503735629..comments2023-10-01T06:32:11.982-07:00Comments on PEACE in PUZZLES: RestitutionIntegrity Singerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-21133171019809248732012-09-30T16:45:24.221-07:002012-09-30T16:45:24.221-07:00I've been shitted on to no end and here's ...I've been shitted on to no end and here's some unsolicited advice ( I know it's the best kind right?) <br /><br />It's not going to really matter who validates you, it might be nice to hear but it won't close that void. <br /><br />YOU have to be the person who speaks up and says "I MATTER". No one else will do it for you and until you do that void will grow bigger and bigger until it consumes you (if you're not there already). <br /><br />Don't wait for anyone to do you any "favors", chances are they are just glad they aren't you. Get the ball rolling for yourself on the lawyer, be your own advocate and fight for yourself like you have for your kids. Just doing that will give you some peace of mind. <br /><br />I don't know you of course but speaking for myself, I was the problem fixer for the whole damn world... when I needed help, well, where did everyone go? But by the time I came forward to ask I was so lost I couldn't recognize myself anymore. I felt so helpless. <br /><br />Unfortunately, it took me getting to the point where "I mentally and physically just can't anymore, you guys are killing me and I'm going to choose me" stage to get there. <br /><br />Girl, even my cat would backtalk me...that's how much of a doormat I had become for everyone because I just kept thinking I could not handle ONE more thing. I bet your ex thinks he's going to steamroll you. But his BS should be nothing compared to what you've been through kicking RAD's a$$ on a daily basis. <br /><br />I had to get to the "I don't give a shit" attitude. "Yes, I love my kids. But I'm not going to live in fear, I'm taking back my control and all you people out there stop threatening me and just do what you're gonna do already,but know this I'm not going down without a fight. "<br /><br />I started remembering the things that made me strong and I've been working on those things to get back to me. It takes a lot of letting go and a lot of saying what *I* need and want. New territory. <br /><br />It will be yet another struggle and definitely hard at first, but it gets easier when you start to remember what you were like before. That is how you will start to feel like you matter again. No amount of saying it will make it true. You need to feel it in you and only you can make that happen. <br /><br />I know, another thing to add to your plate, right? <br /><br />Know this, it's the most important thing on your plate and it will make all the difference in everything you do. It will even make a difference in your children. <br /><br />You are strong enough for this...<br />*hugs* <br />Reighniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03249582936717929919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-18596185323622578352012-09-25T00:12:52.314-07:002012-09-25T00:12:52.314-07:00Oops ... I was thinking I was having issues postin...Oops ... I was thinking I was having issues posting my comment and now I'm realizing that maybe it has been going thru after all and you've just received my comment 5 or so times. I keep getting a message that the verification code is incorrect? I will leave it for now. <br />This was my response: <br /><br />Oh I'm so sorry. You matter and he's being a ToTaL a_ _!!!!!!!! As I was reading about his financial idiocies, I was thinking "I hope she has a very good lawyer" and then you mention your lawyer issue. Too much! It's all just too much. How will you homeschool and teach? Please keep us posted. <br />(hugs)<br />MariaG (Canada)MariaGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701753924118367672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-34517863278791239542012-09-23T17:26:52.709-07:002012-09-23T17:26:52.709-07:00For what it's worth, I think you matter. And ...For what it's worth, I think you matter. And it sucks beyond words that you're going through this. Email me if you ever want to talk. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-88630478417449684362012-09-23T13:50:44.022-07:002012-09-23T13:50:44.022-07:00You matter. I'm listening.You matter. I'm listening.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06458006179630112049noreply@blogger.com