tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post5207299122519639541..comments2023-10-01T06:32:11.982-07:00Comments on PEACE in PUZZLES: Mommies of the NTsIntegrity Singerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-57140177918410239042010-05-07T16:24:20.226-07:002010-05-07T16:24:20.226-07:00One thing i started pointing out when people told ...One thing i started pointing out when people told me, "all kids do that" was, "Yes, all kids make mistakes and all kids do something once in a blue moon where you shake your head and wonder what they were thinking. About every six months or so, you want to kill them for some smart-aleck remark or act of defiance they pull. HOWEVER, my kids do insane things many, many times per day - EVERY DAY - day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year. They don't learn from their mistakes, they repeat the same mistakes over and over again, expecting a different result (the very definition of insanity)." <br /><br />Come on people - wake up. Why in the world would we want these things to be true? Why would we lie about these often embarrassing moments with our kids? My youngest is 6 1/2 and NT - his whole infancy and toddlerhood we thought the kid was a freakin' genius and come to find out he's just exceptionally N---al. Smart, funny, compassionate, a deep thinker, insightful and independent. He's surpassed the abilities of some of his much older siblings by leaps and bounds already (well, since he was 3 we've been noticing how much more mature he is than some of the older kids are). NT are a blessing, not to be taken for granted or shortchanged due to their siblings incredible demands on attention and family resources (yeah, easier said than done).Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-11999325802888980142010-05-07T08:59:34.717-07:002010-05-07T08:59:34.717-07:00The one I hate more than anything:
I just can...The one I hate more than anything: <br /><br /><em>I just can't believe that Danielle would do the things you say she does. She's just so pleasant when [at school/visiting friends/out in public]. She would never [tantrum for hours/hit her parents/threaten to kill the pets]!</em><br /><br />When I hear that, I want to stab myself 30 times with a <a href="http://www.thinkgeek.com/homeoffice/kitchen/8ace/" rel="nofollow">titanium spork</a>.FosterAbbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431773317761777407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-21863127223522718682010-05-06T20:53:30.683-07:002010-05-06T20:53:30.683-07:00*snort* LOL!*snort* LOL!The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-1987473123095197822010-05-06T18:41:31.988-07:002010-05-06T18:41:31.988-07:00OMG Jennie!!! If it wasn't all so true it woul...OMG Jennie!!! If it wasn't all so true it would be hysterical! I also find comfort with other child-challeneged Moms...the Moms like us that truly get the craziness and embrace it as normal. At one of my recent Adoption Support Group meetings the Moms were all comparing personal stories which of the several hospitals in the area had the best adolescent psych wards....much like other Moms might compare TJ MAXX and MARSHALLS....Mama Drama Times Twohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04935810256080795505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-70881649449190815002010-05-06T17:32:03.326-07:002010-05-06T17:32:03.326-07:00Oh I have had a couple of those conversations myse...Oh I have had a couple of those conversations myself, but most of them were new to me! What a fun post. We have to laugh or we will cry!Brenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06932787965969894963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-16346900020952695072010-05-06T15:44:40.999-07:002010-05-06T15:44:40.999-07:00I guess I am blessed not to be the mother of an NT...I guess I am blessed not to be the mother of an NT kid- at least I don't have to watch out for my peers flinging pans!GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-75360078661697738572010-05-06T15:44:40.998-07:002010-05-06T15:44:40.998-07:00"It's just normal kid stuff. You guys ju..."It's just normal kid stuff. You guys just need to chill out!"<br /><br />"Wow! I am so honored...and I'm beyond excited, too! I've never had anyone volunteer to watch my kids for a whole 3 weeks! I'm running home to book my tickets to Hawaii right now. You are such a doll! How could I ever thank you for this generous gift?"<br /><br />Option 2 (one I do use often IRL, actually.)<br />"This is just kid stuff. My kid used to do that too. Look at them, they turned out just fine. Yours will outgrow it and be just fine, too."<br /><br />"Children don't outgrow trauma. They don't just forget about it, either. Trauma leaves deep scars, some of which will last a life time. Trauma very literally changes their physiological brain function. They may 'look' fine on the outside, and you may want them to be 'fine', but they aren't. They are extremely fragile on the inside. They won't outgrow it and they won't forget about the trauma, but they are still amazing kids. They CAN and they DO and my kids ARE out-healing it. God bless you for your concern. Please keep our family in your prayers. We need them."<br /><br />Option 3 (another one I use IRL quite often):<br /><br />"Oh, this is just normal kid stuff!"<br /><br />"What? You don't get what I just said? My friend, get down on your knees right here and right now and thank God that you don't! I wouldn't wish this on anyone...not even an enemy! Have a nice day!"Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08444891084585965661noreply@blogger.com