tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post3481738728380594558..comments2023-10-01T06:32:11.982-07:00Comments on PEACE in PUZZLES: Epiphany!Integrity Singerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-62852215714214783322010-10-27T08:15:54.102-07:002010-10-27T08:15:54.102-07:00Love the autobiography. Wish I thought my kids wo...Love the autobiography. Wish I thought my kids would ever get to step III, IV and V.<br /><br />So far their autobiography reads.<br /><br />I walk down the street. <br />There is a deep hole in the sidewalk <br />I fall in. <br />I am lost ... I am helpless. <br />It isn't my fault. <br />It takes forever for someone else to find me a way out.<br /><br />I walk down the same street. <br />There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. <br />I pretend I don't see it. <br />I fall in again. <br />I can't believe I am in the same place <br />but, it isn't my fault. <br />I fight to stay in the hole because it is where I belong.<br />I'm mad at everyone for not getting me out. <br /><br />Mary in TXmarythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-89895835657361761012010-10-27T05:10:56.911-07:002010-10-27T05:10:56.911-07:00PS - sorry, I wondered if you'd ever seen this...PS - sorry, I wondered if you'd ever seen this poem by Portia Nelson, your post made me think of it.<br /><br />AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS<br />by Portia Nelson<br /><br />I <br /><br />I walk down the street. <br />There is a deep hole in the sidewalk <br />I fall in. <br />I am lost ... I am helpless. <br />It isn't my fault. <br />It takes me forever to find a way out. <br /><br />II <br /><br />I walk down the same street. <br />There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. <br />I pretend I don't see it. <br />I fall in again. <br />I can't believe I am in the same place <br />but, it isn't my fault. <br />It still takes a long time to get out. <br /><br />III <br /><br />I walk down the same street. <br />There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. <br />I see it is there. <br />I still fall in ... it's a habit. <br />my eyes are open <br />I know where I am. <br />It is my fault. <br />I get out immediately. <br /><br />IV <br /><br />I walk down the same street. <br />There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. <br />I walk around it. <br /><br />V <br /><br />I walk down another street.Rangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09060152264532412516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-76735539956744338962010-10-27T04:56:24.827-07:002010-10-27T04:56:24.827-07:00Reading your post made me think that yes, someone ...Reading your post made me think that yes, someone can offer all the support and chances in the world, but yes of course the one being offered to has to want to change, the motivation has to come from inside them before they can do it. SO hard with a child. I'm still in awe.Rangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09060152264532412516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-88165871329897833882010-10-27T03:26:42.470-07:002010-10-27T03:26:42.470-07:00Amen sista!! You are way smarter than I am becaus...Amen sista!! You are way smarter than I am because I had this same epiphany not too long ago as well - but it took me 15 years of increasingly inhumane behaviors to get there. My dd (17 1/2) is in respite as I type - for the first time EVER and I am doing the happy dance all day long. The respite provider (a friend whom I drive 1 1/2 hrs. each way to meet HALFWAY and trade kids with) gets it - truly has a daughter who's also 17 and a clone of mine. We told the girls they would be best friends - and so far so good. She called yesterday to say that my daughter is saying she wants to go into this youth challenge academy program that her daughter is going in come Jan-June. That is just great, isn't it? She's tortured our family with her mean, argumentative, insane ramblings for years and now she meets this stranger and within 24 hours has turned over a new leaf and wants to go into this program. Had it been a year ago, I would have made it happen. At this point, though, I could care less. Go to the program, don't go, doesn't make a bit of difference to me anymore. In fact, she can absolutely go if she wants to do all the running around, filling out paperwork, finding a way to the 4-6 hr seminar you're required to attend and the open house a few weeks later, it's 4 hours away too so she'll need to find a bus to get her there. It is so freeing and dare I say - exhilarating, to hand her problems back over to her and just stop carrying the price of her failures on my heart. To stop blaming myself for her inability to make a good choice. This program would be great for her younger, bio brother as well except that they won't take anyone who doesn't say and show they want to change and he will NEVER admit he needs to change. I guess I need to find him a friend who's going there so he'll want to go too.<br /><br />I am so happy for you!! I loved your hubbys line about not using big words she doesn't understand - I will be stealing that to use on my two little victims.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-61421663828200783352010-10-26T18:53:29.948-07:002010-10-26T18:53:29.948-07:00WOWZA! Epiphanies seem to be going around these da...WOWZA! Epiphanies seem to be going around these days - Kari had one the other day, too. I don't think the year was wasted - as it brought you and will bring all the professionals to the point you are at today - enlightened and unburdened of the crazy responsibility to "fix" it for Sissy.Mama Drama Times Twohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04935810256080795505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-20224402567324787372010-10-26T18:40:50.546-07:002010-10-26T18:40:50.546-07:00At least you and Hubby are in sync :)At least you and Hubby are in sync :)GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.com