tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post2555749224348752139..comments2023-10-01T06:32:11.982-07:00Comments on PEACE in PUZZLES: IFI team reportsIntegrity Singerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-34098512155017207072010-03-26T07:32:36.781-07:002010-03-26T07:32:36.781-07:00Trigger? My son's trigger is the word "N...Trigger? My son's trigger is the word "NO" so exactly how do you change that? Give in to ridiculous requests/demands so we don't trigger him? My husband made a good point with our case manager the other day (our version of IFI discharged my son because there was nothing they could do with someone who refuses to change - lucky us). He said, "We could fill his pockets with candy and tell him yes to everything to keep him happy and from threatening the other kids, but in what universe would you call that parenting?" HA! She was speechless! I am so tired of being told that if only I had read this particular book (I've read DOZENS, but usually not the one they are currently referencing) everything would be better. If I just let him be a kid and stopped dwelling on the negative (how will I ever have the time to "dwell" on the negative when I'm trying to restrain a raging 16 yo and keep the other kids safe?) he would behave more positive every single day. Fools - all of 'em. I wish they'd just be honest and say, "Nope, we don't know nothin', we're just making educated guesses here and odds are - we're probably wrong". The focus now is insurance and YOU. If you did everything they say (parenting-wise) and had great insurance that paid for everything they say she needs - and Sissy still got worse - what then? I know, they'd say you must not be following their directions properly.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-60736544785803312322010-03-24T17:37:54.878-07:002010-03-24T17:37:54.878-07:00That totally stinks. I imagine you probably have, ...That totally stinks. I imagine you probably have, but just in case you haven't (small chance, I know!) Dan Hughes book on Building Attachment in Hurting Children (something like that) really helped us with our daughter. . . and honestly, I shudder to think what our life was like before that, though I will frankly admit that it wasn't near what you are going through.Happymom4 aka Hope Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13853646859979784516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-32000149074547712402010-03-24T11:43:14.799-07:002010-03-24T11:43:14.799-07:00I hope the rock has a little give soon becaue that...I hope the rock has a little give soon becaue that is a crappy place to be stuck! hang in there. Would it be possible to video tape her, like have a camera goin inthe room she is in all the time? Just a thought...stellarparenting.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975942737904876508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-47055015455727484742010-03-24T10:21:27.386-07:002010-03-24T10:21:27.386-07:00It's a circle that the "system" keep...It's a circle that the "system" keeps spinning on us. We had almost the same options when we were trying to get DQ into out of home placement. There was a point that we were going to let them file on us because our other kids were just too scared to be in the house with her. At the last hour, and I mean hour,(we had a placement ready to accept her that morning) the private insurance said they'd pay for residential. If we had to rely on MA or the county it wouldn't have happened. At the time we didn't worry about it because the damage she was causing our family was worth it. But, now we have a $5000 bill for residential, a $8000 deductable and still no MA. She's back home and returning to old behaviors. The money part is really a strain right now. Can you say collection agency? They just don't make it easy, heck I'd go for not so hard! Good luck with the fed ma-i'm praying for you-Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11432036684354771659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-31302959089414878572010-03-24T09:21:44.328-07:002010-03-24T09:21:44.328-07:00I am so sorry that this just gets harder and harde...I am so sorry that this just gets harder and harder. I am still praying for medicaid. {{Hugs}}GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-71707258131135354202010-03-24T09:11:07.745-07:002010-03-24T09:11:07.745-07:00Praying for Medicaid! I'll continue praying fo...Praying for Medicaid! I'll continue praying for you all!Debora Hoffmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09947148491137183181noreply@blogger.com