tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post2413101890658219002..comments2023-10-01T06:32:11.982-07:00Comments on PEACE in PUZZLES: insuranceIntegrity Singerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-82970554383945292152010-02-16T08:38:32.969-08:002010-02-16T08:38:32.969-08:00We are experiencing or have experienced every sing...We are experiencing or have experienced every single thing you're writing (except for RTC, which is just out of the question since MI has no money for RTC's. The only kids that get there are the ones raping and setting fires and murdering at this point. There is no help for the kids who are on their way to doing those things. We did the bedroom shuffle and we are out of options for that as well. I have a few older kids who will be moving out in the next few years - too little, too late though since we need a solution TODAY. The bedroom in the living room deal sucks, but I can totally see how you're out of options. How in blazes are we supposed to have any semblence of "normal" when we have to go to these extremes? The first thing people see when they walk through my door is the locks on the refrigerator and freezer - very welcoming, no?<br /><br />Hang in there, I wish your situation was unique, but there are so....many of us out here living your life -- no answers, but you'll get thru this.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-38069294418918321182010-02-11T19:09:52.819-08:002010-02-11T19:09:52.819-08:00Jennie.. I have to second what Mary said.. I'd...Jennie.. I have to second what Mary said.. I'd be happy to talk with you more privately if you'd like.. you know our son has been in RTC for 14 months now.. email me at jcwaters2002@yahoo.com<br /><br />CoreyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-41403578590911413632010-02-11T15:43:57.963-08:002010-02-11T15:43:57.963-08:00I'm sorry. It seems the system just fails eve...I'm sorry. It seems the system just fails everyone, doesn't it?FosterAbbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431773317761777407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-6582523648188324442010-02-11T12:35:14.415-08:002010-02-11T12:35:14.415-08:00I don't comment much but I'm reading. My h...I don't comment much but I'm reading. My heart is breaking for you. I'm tearing up as I read. I'm so sorry. I hope that you can trigger her so that hopefully insurance will sit up and take notice. {{hugs}}Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00399175088954291174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-64776320897752248062010-02-11T10:49:33.392-08:002010-02-11T10:49:33.392-08:00ok. I'm hearing ya'll loud and clear. We...ok. I'm hearing ya'll loud and clear. We're going to try to trigger Sissy. Ugh. Just when you think you're doing the right thing, you've gotten it all wrong. Argh.<br /><br />two reasons I won't put Aspie Boy and Maren together so Sissy can have the girls room:<br />1. Aspie Boy absolutely has to have a quiet space to himself to unwind. His stimming is pretty bad some times. Plus, he hates that wonder girl is capable and smart and he hits in his anger.<br /><br />2. It wouldn't be fair to wonder girl to move her, she's not the one that's been horrendous or impaired or detrimental to others. In her 5 year old mind, it would be a punishment to have to deal with Sissy OR Aspie Boy, a punishment she didn't deserve because she's faultless in all of this.<br /><br />3. Put her in our room is out. We just spent the last three months helping her migrate back to her room and out of our room because she couldn't be in her room alone with Sissy and because the trauma has caused many nightmares and sleeplessness.Integrity Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-4785571069276169722010-02-11T10:14:30.618-08:002010-02-11T10:14:30.618-08:00Oh, Jennie. I'm so sorry. I remember these day...Oh, Jennie. I'm so sorry. I remember these days so vividly and all I can say is you will get through them. I've asked God all those questions and begged for mercy and strength. It's a one moment at a time kinda deal. You are a survivor and there will be answers eventually. Your advocacy is saving your children's lives. No matter how angry or frustrated or depressed we are, it is better than where they were. Just know there is someone (probably lots of someones) that understand this journey and it.is.not.fun. When we went through it we had no one. No support group, no one who had been through it before, no bloggy friends. So I will pray God's peace amidst the storm and the battle. Because it is a battle.Marty Waldenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07457166508208134485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-52426391701057163392010-02-11T09:34:49.484-08:002010-02-11T09:34:49.484-08:00I think you have probably read the books I have. D...I think you have probably read the books I have. Do you know about the Beyond COnsequences online class. If you are willing to blog for them you can take it for free. At least they offered that last month. It is different that many other approaches but I find that a bled of a whole bunch of stuff is what works for us. <br /><br />Can you have Aspie boys and wonder girl share a room? I know it is not the norm but I have friends who have their mixed gender sibs share and it works for them really well.stellarparenting.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975942737904876508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-347324365882583578.post-68423751425447137502010-02-11T07:55:39.073-08:002010-02-11T07:55:39.073-08:00RTCs and insurance do not give a cr*p about anyone...RTCs and insurance do not give a cr*p about anyone else in the family or the fact that there are no services available. We learned this the hard way. We told insurance if they would pay for things like neurological testing for our daughter we wouldn't have had to have her at an $800/day residential treatment center, but they wouldn't do it. We told them that our entire family was terrified of our son, and our daughter had made so much progress while he was gone, but they sent him home anyway - without any support services in place.<br /><br />I debated and decided not to trigger a major meltdown/ RAD rage for my kids while they were at the RTC to show they were not ready to come home. I honestly think that not doing so was a big mistake.<br /><br />My advice? Trigger her. Help that RAD rage come out while she is still safely there (and not in your home). With any luck it will buy you some time and if it's on campus then maybe they will be able to access some of those feelings you see glimpses of during your calls. Otherwise? It's virtually impossible to get your child back in the programs she so obviously needs because they will write the RTC off as not working or flat out not needed.<br /><br />From a mom who's BTDT,<br />Mary in TXmarythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.com